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Your First Time? Advice for Nervous Socialites.

 

It’s several weeks since you made that resolution that you would get out and meet new people. Maybe you want to try new activities, maybe you are new to Manchester and want to connect with people or maybe you want to expand your social circle in the hope you will meet the love of your life. At this point, the why’s are not important. However,we know you haven’t been out yet. 

Sure, you maybe telling yourself the same excuses that got you through last year.  You are busy at work, money etc, you threw yourself into a whirlwind romance that fizzled out just after Valentines day and …the list goes on.  

We are not buying it.

Deep down we know you are nervous, if not terrified.  Your current friendship group have been with you since university; when making friends was as easy as spilling your pint down their shirt and apologising profusely.  But it is different now.  As you consider the prospect of meeting new people, a million questions run through your mind.

Will anyone talk to me. What if they don’t like me? I really don’t want to walk into a room full of strangers and have everyone stare at me.

Soon all your worst nightmares are dancing through your mind and you find a reason not to attend the event you had been looking forward to.  Maybe next week?

We have been there, we have made the excuses but then swallowed our fear, pushed ourselves to go to an event and never looked back. 

We understand.  So we thought we would let you know what to expect along with some wisdom from our existing members. 

Who are Social Circle?

Well we are a group of socialites who wanted to meet new people and make friends, for all the same reasons as you do now.

Social Circle was started when founder, Stephen Sutherland, had just moved to Manchester as a single guy and wanted some mates to hang out with at the pub on a Friday night.  Over a Decade on and oodles of members later, we have over 150+ events to choose from per month, from cinema nights and restaurant meals to holidays abroad.  

Many of our members are single professionals aged 35-55 who are  living and working in Manchester. Whilst we all have our personalities you can be assured we all share one unique quality.  We want to meet new people, including YOU!

Everyone has been in your shoes so don’t feel nervous, enjoy it!

Emma Hodson, Host & Member

What to expect.

When you first book on an event, you will be contacted by one of our lovely hosts.  They will tell you everything from what they are wearing(!),  to which table they are sat at, so you can find them.  If you are super nervous then tell them, you can arrange to meet them earlier or at a specific place so you are not arriving alone.  Your host will chat to you to ease any nerves and introduce you to the rest of the group.  Most of our existing members know exactly what it is like to feel nervous and many will go out of their way to make you feel welcome.

Remember there is no pressure and there is no obligation to swap numbers or connect on social media. You will not be walking into a huge group of people who all know each other, and nor will hosts be pouring booze down your throat or making fun of you to help you to ‘loosen up’.  Each of our events are warm, friendly and very welcoming. You can stay for as little or as long as you want and even non-drinkers are welcome on pub crawls.

You are in complete control the whole time, just like any other outing with your friends.

“Relax….you’re in safe hands!”

Sarah Hobbs, Member.

Your first event.

Our suggestion for your first event is choose something that is familiar that you know you will enjoy.  If you  have a passion for the latest movies then come join us for an outing to I, Tonya.  You will certainly have a lot to talk about with your fellow cinema lovers in the bar afterwards.   If you like the idea of chit-chat and laughter over some of the best food in Manchester then maybe our Saturday night jaunt to Jamie Oliver’s restaurant is would be perfect for your first time with us.  Or throw caution to the wind and join us for our VIP night at Mahiki and enjoy some Tiki cocktails after work, we promise you will enjoy yourself so much you will be partying until the early hours with new friends.

 

“You’ve done the hardest part…. now just turn up and enjoy! We all had a first night, so know what it’s like and will make you feel welcome. You have absolutely nothing to lose but much to gain!”

Annette Fontaine, Host and Member.

 

Best of all, you can try out an event for free. So you really cannot lose.  

 

“Make sure you face your fears, and just come along.”

Wendy Skelton, Member.

The Single Socialites Guide to Surviving Valentine’s Day.

Valentines Day.  The time of year where even the happily single can feel bit left out when surrounded by loved-up couples.  But where did it all begin?  In Ancient Rome Emperor Claudius decided to ban marriages as men were refusing to leave their wives for war.  St Valentine was an Italian priest who married sweethearts in secret.  He wore an amethyst ring with cupids bow as a sign to couples that he was the one who would marry them. Like all those in Love with Love, he ended up losing his head.  So now you know.  St Valentine’s Day is no longer about love in secret but there is still plenty you can do to celebrate the day.

Have an Anti-Valentines Outing.

There are so many great deals at restaurants at this time of year, you may as well take full advantage and book a table at your favourite haunt for you and your closest friends.  Cackle with laughter as you people watch and share cocktails.  We can heartily recommend The Liquor Store for some unromantic rock n roll and music inspired cocktails. 

Bang out some Power Ballads

“I cant live…..if living is without yoo-uuu. I CANT LIVE!!”

Nothing like a good power ballad, and on Valentines Day you can head down to the Beirkeller in Manchester Printworks and sing your little broken heart out….and maybe make it rain on all the happy couples.

Say it with Flowers.

There is going to be someone gushing over flowers that her beau has sent to the office. It might as well be you, or your best friend, or your mum.  Given Valentines Day is about celebrating love in all its forms, why not send someone you care about some flowers to brighten their day. Do try to resist your newly-committed friends a ‘sympathy’ bouquet, it is not likely to go down well. If you want, send yourself some flowers. After all, YOU are the love of your life.  Our friends in Didsbury, Verdure, do lovely bouquets for all occasions, and they deliver too.

50 Shades of Singledom

Did you know that there was a little known festival of love in Ancient Rome where strapping young men would whip naked young maidens for fertility.  Funnily enough, we will be watching exactly that when our cinema-loving singles go to watch 50 Shades Freed on Wednesday night.

When in Rome.

Given Valentines Day has its roots in ancient Rome, you have to do what the Romans do!  Come join us for a Valentines Opera outing and get lost in the beauty of various romantic and tragic arias, duets and grand orchestral interludes at the Bridgewater Hall.  If you like Pizza, join us and other Manchester Singles at Wood.Fire.Smoke the day after Valentines day where we can have a chat and enjoy some post-valentines day bargains.

Keep it Sweet, Honey.

If you really want to spend Valentine’s Day without the fuss of peopling, then we recommend  the old classic of watching a film, and running yourself a long bath and grab yourself a gift box of these gorgeous locally-made (well …wales) and bee-friendly honey bath and beauty products from Honey Bee Beautiful. St Valentine is the patron saint of Beekeepers after all.  If you order on Valentines Day (and only that day), use the Code BEELINE for a special discount.  You can even buy a bar to keep your four-legged friend smelling sweet.

So what are your plans for surviving Valentines day? Do comment below.

 

5 Reasons why Friends are the Best.

 

With Friendship Day behind us and conversations still taking place over mental health following #TimetoTalkDay, it got Social Circle HQ thinking about our friends and the wonderful ways they contribute to our lives. It’s not just us being soppy though. Turns out scientists agree that good friends come with (health) benefits.

So friends are great, so why do I feel so lonely?

You would not be alone, a sense of isolation is increasing amongst adults as our friendship groups dissolve with every life change.  We move towns, change our jobs and relationships and spend what little downtime we have on social media.  It is no wonder we feel that life is all about work, or we focus on finding ‘the one’ when actually what we need is a  small quality network of friends.

‘How can I find like-minded people?’. It is easy, choose an event that appeals to you and come meet wonderful like-minded people who are looking to expand their Social Circle in Manchester.

So here are 5 surprising reasons why it is important to get out there and make new friends. 

Increase your sense of belonging and purpose.

Whether it is our love of niche horror films, a particular football team or the fact we are a coffee snob, our unique qualities in the wrong environment can remind us of being the awkward kid at school.  Friends not only accept us for all we are, including our weird ways, but they often have the same quirks and interests.  So whether you are laughing over drinks at your latest dating nightmare, or cheering on your favourite team, your friends are with you as they are part of your tribe.

Boost your happiness and reduce your stress.

Despite the fact many of us like our own space, humans are sociable creatures and need human interaction.  Most of us lead stressful lives, whether we work or at home there is an overwhelming sense of competition which can be isolating at times. Having real-life friends gives your brain a much needed boost of happy hormones and instantly reduces your blood pressure and other signs of stress. In fact, good friendships lead to a longer healthier life overall.  

Improve your self-confidence and self-worth.

Good friends are there for the good times and will encourage our ambitions, even if it is with healthy dose of realism.  We can trust them not to put us down when we excitedly tell them about the promotion we have applied for, they will help you see all your wonderful qualities when you are nervous before a big night out and will show their pride when you speak up for yourself.  This sense of validation is integral to our self-esteem and overall happiness.

Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one.

We have all been through our own version of hell at some point and whether or not you are in a relationship,  having your friends around you can give you hope and comfort in otherwise dark times. Whether it is the remarried divorcee who assures you that you will survive this breakup, or the friend who brings you a movie and takeaway when you are ill, it is the seemingly small gestures which have the biggest impact and make us look forward to the future.

Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise

Good friends are honest and are prepared to have difficult conversations with you in a loving way. Not to be confused with the idiot that points out that you have gained a few pounds by jabbing – literally- at your soft spots.  It means that they will question whether you can afford that luxury item when they can see the unopened credit card bills in the corner, they will invite you to join them for a walk in the countryside when you have been stuck on the sofa with a stale pizza all week .  Good friends care about you and will point out the things that will get in the way of your happiness, but likewise they will cheer you on when you make changes.

Do you have a friend who has all these wonderful qualities?  Do share your stories and tag them. 

 

How to Beat the January Blues.

January! The dark nights, terrible weather and the fact payday is a long way away can really drag the most cheery of folks down.  Not to mention, the excesses of the Christmas season finally catch up on us.  Today, Monday the 15th January is officially Blue Monday.  But don’t let that get you down.  Fortunately, we have rounded up the best ways to put the spring back in your step.

Look after No. 1

If you are anything like us, you probably look as terrible as you feel.  The best way to feel better is to start from the inside. Ensure you get your 7 hours of sleep a night, drink plenty of water and green tea, and eat healthy home-cooked food.  If your cooking skills are lacking, why not join us at a Masterclass and learn how to cook up a storm?

Giving yourself a good old pamper will also lift your spirits. (Yes, gents you too!)  Whether it is a long soak in the tub or a massage, being gentle with yourself will have you back on the road to recovery in no time.

Laugh More!

Science says that a big hearty belly laugh is actually good for you. Laughing floods your your system with feel-good hormones that reduce your stress levels and help you beat off the seasonal coughs and flu.  

If you are feeling so low that you feel you lost your sense of humour, then go out to a comedy club.  Studies show that laughing is contagious so before long you will be laughing so hard your ribs will hurt, and any stress will melt away.

Why not  join us on one of our jaunts to Manchester’s best comedy clubs and you get the added bonus of a confidence boost from meeting new people too.

Book your next Holiday.

There is a wealth of research to suggest that planning and anticipating your next holiday is as good for you as actually going on one. Whilst your post-Christmas budget may be tighter than your post-Christmas jeans, it is surprisingly easy and affordable to plan a European getaway. So within a few weeks you could be exploring the best Europe has to offer.  Now your in-tray does not appear as bad does it?

Did you know Social Circle loves organising exciting weekend breaks?  We know it can be a pain organising everything or even travelling alone. So now you can have a great time exploring new cities with other Manchester-based singles knowing every detail is planned (we even source the best pubs and clubs!). Best of all, our breaks start from as little as £75!